The Un-silent Woman

A poem for you... the one who is journeying what we know to be healing. We honor our phases the way we do that of the moon We announce when we feel empty and unseen like the new moon We announce when we’ve overcome obstacles and are filled with all things great and powerful like the full moon We give so much energy and power to these two phases And while they’re deserving of being spoken about... What about your crescent moon phase? You know...the days when you worked so hard to keep going even though-- suicide was a thought depression was a religion and hopelessness was a state of mind -- and they all started to show above ground, spilling out for others to see Yet you still showed up for the day Leaving yesterday behind and working hard for a better tomorrow What about this phase?   What about the quarter moon phase? You know when you’ve finally identified your purpose and passion, but you don’t know where to begin You finally have the drive to get up in the morning and show some...

I’m not a temporary home For the feelings that slowly escape out her back door I’m a permanent home Where mortgage is paid in sure choices So if you don’t know where you want to stay for sure Pack your shit and leave through the front door I’ll turn off the porch light behind you . go.~Brittany K.W., 11/26/20  We find comfort in holding on to that which we've experienced-- we attach to what we know. In attaching to such things, be it good or bad, we knowingly play a role in repeating cycles. Often times, these cycles show up in our relationships. Today, I am talking about romantic relationships, and I'll touch on parental.  Why not friendships? For some reason, we often hold our friends more accountable for their actions than we do our lovers and parents. We're quick to correct friends, or leave friendships, when we don't like something that was said or how something played out. We don't extend as much grace. We don't nurture the bonds in that realm as much. We ...

Glossary: Addiction / / əˈdikSH(ə)n / : (noun): A compulsive physiological or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior, or activity having harmful physical, psychological, or social effects and typically causing well-defined symptoms upon withdrawal or abstinence ( Merriam-Webster) Attachment  / əˈtaCHmənt / : a strong emotional bond formed with a caregiver especially when viewed as a basis for normal emotional and social development.  (Merriam-Webster)   When we think of addiction, we typically think of the use of drugs or consumption of alcohol to the point of damage. We think of addiction in the form of materialistic items (clothes, shoes, bags, etc.). We think of the overconsumption of certain types of foods. Needless to say, addiction shows up in many forms, but we don't often speak of addiction that masks itself as love. Addiction can disguise itself as love in our relationships-- be it platonic, familial or romantic-- and it hides itself well. Wh...